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International Babylost Mother's Day: May 2nd

Abiding Hope

Abiding Hope
Thanks Franchesca!!!!!

She made a Video for Cylas; it's at the bottom if you would like to watch it

Cylas' Butterfly

Cylas' Butterfly
Thanks Bree!!!!

Cylas' Angel Wings

Cylas' Angel Wings
Thanks Lea!!!!

Cylas' Butterfly Footprints

Cylas' Butterfly Footprints
Thanks Malory!!!

Calvin's Cupcakes

Calvin's Cupcakes
Thank you Crystal

February 24, 2010

26 MONTHS OLD

Wow, I can't believe how old you are getting. It's unbelieveable. You were my greatest gift in life. I've dreamt of having a little boy and I finally get you, only to have you taken away 3 weeks later. It's a sad reality but it's become my life. I don't know what it is about boys that make momma's want them so badly. I guess in my case it's because both your sisters act just like me and that's bad.

I wanted to have my sweet little boy. I want to have a little boy that was sweet and huggable around mama and then rotten around everyone else, HA!!! It's been so hard knowing what I am missing. I had so much that I wanted to do with you. I couldn't wait to teach you to play ball. I wanted to watch you try and kick a ball for the first time. That would have been funny.

There's just something about a boy that warms a mom's heart. Don't get me wrong I love the girls but I miss my boy so very much. I wanted you here so bad. I still want you here. There is no amount of time that can change that. I'll be 80 years old and have grown daughters and probably grand babies and I'll still be missing you. But I guess that's a momma's heart. That's something that doesn't change. You took a peice of my heart with you and I will always have that peice missing no matter how old I get.

HAPPY 26 MONTHS, BABY BOY!!

Love your,
Mommy

February 18, 2010

2 YEARS, 1 MONTH, & 3 DAYS

I realized on Monday after I posted a Valentine's message what the date was. I did not intend on forgetting what the date was and what it meant for me.

It's been two years and one month since I had to say goodbye to my precious son. I still wish everyday that you were here and I still miss you just as much.

Dealing with RSV is a scary thing and I had to be on top of things with Teela. She's feeling much better and is back at school today. I am keeping my fingers crossed that she was ready to go back out into the world.

I am pretty sure you have heard your sister's conversations about you lately. You are talked about more than anyone I know. We talk about the what if's and could've beens. It's always a bittersweet moment for us but I love that she so openly talks about you. I love it!

Missing you,
Mommy

February 15, 2010

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

I know I'm a day late,son. But I did not forget about you. The weather has been so sucky lately. I haven't even had a chance to deliver your V-Day gifts. I LOVE YOU FOREVER and ALWAYS!

February 10, 2010

It's MOM

I'm trying out my new blackberry. Ur baby sis is sick. She's got RSV.

February 8, 2010

ONE STEP CLOSER.........

This was in T's nose


Cylas, over the weekend I upgraded my phone to a blackberry curve. I'm still trying to figure it out. But I love it. I helped Nana get her first cell phone and I also helped your uncle Jason get another phone. This is like his 3rd phone in less than a year. He doesn't know how to take care of his stuff and it's getting very expensive to him "mobile".

I also bought some Valentine's day stuff for your sisters and you. I'll have to take a picture of your things and post them on here. Right now you have 3 balloons and a tiger in a red basket. I'm hoping the weather will stay pretty and I can take them to you. You still don't have any flowers. You have that one birthday arrangement that your sister picked out and that's it. The stores don't have any pretty ones available yet, but I'm always looking.

Your sisters 6th birthday is next month and I think I already have everything figured out. I'm taking her and 4 friends to Chuck E. Cheese's. She's been bugging and bugging me to take her and I've finally broken down and made the reservations for her party. She's very excited. Lately she's been having a rough time. She's really been missing you. Stripes has been so helpful. He's been back in our bed for the last two weeks and he goes on every trip we've made. I hope you are getting all the love she has beens ending your way. She's always talking to Stripes telling him to make sure he tells you how much she misses you and loves you. Please stay close to her. I hate it when she's like this because there isn't much I can do to help her. She breaks my heart.

She went with me to watch Legion on Friday and she made me feel so bad. She heard one of the characters say that all those zombie like beings were angels she looked at me and said "mommy, I thought angels were supposed to be nice. Does this mean that Cylas will be a bad angel too one day?" Then she said "I don't want him to be a bad angel." I had to explain to her that Legion is just a movie and she has nothing to worry about. I felt bad because at that moment and time her perception of angels was taking a turn for the worse. I think she finally understands the concept. I cried for a few minutes and held her in my arms. My poor little girl.

On another note, I will never forget what a child can get into. Your little sister T had a pine cone looking thing come out of nose a week and a half ago. I don't know how it got in there. We watch her so close. I think she's going to be a handfull when she gets older. She's growing like a weed.

Continuing my journey without you, forever loving you and keeping you in my heart,
Mommy

February 5, 2010

IT'S FEBRUARY

Goodbye January!!! HELLO February!!!!!

January posting ended on a bad note for me. I wrote about those nasty fakers and how they made me feel. I'm feeling  good about things now, especially since I did vent about the situation.

Not much to talk about today. I've had my fill of winter weather, which I hate. I love the cold I just wish we could go without the freezing rain and snow. I'm not ready to say goodbye to the cold since I love it so much but I am ready to send my kids outside to play.

THREAD OF HOPE

I have completely fallen in love with this song

Honey Is For Bees

I WILL CARRY YOU by SELAH

HELD by NATALIE GRANT

Unredeemed by SELAH

BORROWED ANGELS

Don't Go Away (Buckcherry)

Godspeed (Sweet Dreams)

KNOCKIN ON HEAVEN'S DOOR

EVERY ROSE HAS IT'S THORN

Every Breath You Take

BRING ON THE RAIN

STAND BESIDE ME

TEARS IN HEAVEN

I'll be Missing you

THE CROSS HAS WON AGAIN

WISH YOU WERE HERE

HEALING STREAM

MAMA LIKED THE ROSES

TAKE MY HAND PRECIOUS LORD

ONCE UPON A HILL

In Memory of Those I've Lost

Nelly Furtado

~~IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY~~

I think of you often
and make no outward show,
But what it means to lose you,
no one will ever know
You wished no one farewell,
not even said good-bye,
You were gone before I knew it,
and only God knows why.
You are not forgotten
nor will you ever be,
As long as life and memories last,
I will remember thee.
To some you may be forgotten,
to others a part of the past,
But to me who loved you dearly,
your memories will always last.
Nothing can be more beautiful
than the memories I have of you.
To me, you were someone special,
God must have thought so too!
If tears could build a stairway
and memories a lane,
I would walk all the way to Heaven,
and bring you back again.

Shared by Beth on BBC (thanks Beth)

Cylas @ 7 days old

Cylas @ 7 days old

My Sister, I-wo-di

My Sister, I-wo-di
The Princess

I'm Spending Christmas with Jesus this Year

I see the all the beautiful Christmas Trees
Around the world below,
With the all the lights like heaven's stars
Reflecting in the snow..

The sight is so spectacular
Please wipe away that tear,
For I am spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year..

I hear the many Christmas songs
That people hold so dear,
But the sounds of music can't compare
With the Christmas choir up here..

For I have no words to tell you
The joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description
To hear as the angels sing..

I know how much you miss me
I see the pain inside your heart,
But I am spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year..

I can not tell you of the splendor
Or the peace here in this place,
Can you just imagine Christmas?
With our Savior, face to face?

I will ask HIM to light your spirit
As I tell HIM of your love,
So then pray one for another
As you lift your eyes above..

So please let your hearts be joyful
And let your spirit sing,
For I am spending Christmas in heaven
And I am walking with the King!!!

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20 Things I wish you would Remember

1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention Cylas. The truth is just because you may never seen him doesn't mean he doesn't deserve your recognition.

2. I wish that if we did talk about Cylas and I cried you didn't think it was because you have hurt me by mentioning him. The truth is I need to (and often want to) cry and talk about Cylas with you. Crying and emotional outbursts help me heal.

3. I wish that you could talk about Cylas more than once. The truth is if you do, it reassures me that you haven't forgotten him and that you do care and understand.

4. I wish you wouldn't think that I don't want to talk about Cylas. The truth is I love him and need to talk about him.

5. I wish you could tell me you are sorry Cylas has died and that you are thinking of me. The truth is that it tells me you care.

6. I wish you wouldn't think what has happened is one big bad memory for me. The truth is the memory of Cylas Mychal, the love I feel for him, the dreams I had and the memories I have created for him are all loving memories. Yes there are bad memories too but please understand that it's not all like that.

7. I wish you wouldn't pretend that Cylas never existed. The truth is we both know I had him growing inside me for 9 months.

8. I wish you wouldn't judge me because I am not acting the way you think I should be. The truth is grief is a very personal thing and we are all different people who deal with things differently.

9. I wish you wouldn't think if I have a good day I'm "over it" or if I have a bad day that I am being unreasonable because you think I should be over it. The truth is there is no "normal" way for me to act and I will never be "over it".

10. I wish you wouldn't stay away from me. The truth is loosing Cylas doesn't mean I'm contagious. By staying away you make me feel isolated, confused and at fault for something I had no control over.

11. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be "over and done with" in a few weeks, months, years or ever for that matter. The truth is it may get easier with time but I will never be "over" this.

12. I wish you would think of Cylas as a baby and and not just a neo-natal death. The truth is he was a human life. He had a soul, heart, body, legs, arms, a face and a unique personality. I have seen my baby's body and face, I have heard him cry. My baby was a real person.

13.Cylas' due date, his birthday, the day he died and Mothers Day, are all important and sad days for me. The truth is I wish you could tell me by words or by letter that you are thinking of me (and Cylas) on these days.

14. I wish you understood that losing Cylas has changed me. The truth is I am not the same person I was before nor will I ever be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to ""normal" you will stay frustrated and continue waiting. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the new "me"-maybe you'll still like me.

15. I wish you wouldn't tell me that I can have other babies. The truth is I want the baby I lost and no other baby can replace Cylas Mychal. Babies aren't interchangeable.

16. I wish you wouldn't feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about Cylas or being near me. When you do, I can see it. The truth is it's not fair to make me feel uncomfortable just because you are, I'm dealing with enough as it is.

17. I wish you wouldn't think that you should keep away because all my friends and family will be there for me. The truth is, everyone thinks the same thing and I am often left with no one.

18. I wish you would understand that being around pregnant women is uncomfortable for me. The truth is I feel jealous, angry and sad.

19. I wish you wouldn't say that everything happens for a reason. The truth is as far as I'm concerned no explanation would or could ever be good enough to justify that fact that Cylas is gone.

20. I wish you would understand what you are really saying when you say "the next baby will be fine". The truth is how do you know? Can you gauruntee that my next baby will be healthy? What will you say if it happens to me again?

*adapted and edited from Rainbow Over my Broken Road Thank you Kristi.*

Meet my Sister

Meet my Sister
Hi! I'm Iwodi!!

A Poem for Angel Moms

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother
And I know I heard him say,

A Mother has a baby
This we know is true.
But God, can you be a Mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes you can, he replied
With confidence in his voice.
I give many women babies
When they leave is not their choice

Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb.
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this,
GodI want my baby here!
He took a breath and cleared His throat
And then I saw a tear

I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile

With the other children and say,
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
Of love and life and fear.

My Mommy loved me oh so much
I got to come straight here."
"I feel so lucky to have a Mom
Who had so much love for me.

I learned my lesson very quickly
and My Mommy set me free."
"I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day.

When she goes to sleep at night
On her pillow is where I lay."
"I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek

And whisper in her ear,
Mommy don't be sad today
I am your baby and I am here.

"So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home

And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lesson is through.

And on the day that you come home
They'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother

It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.

It's Cylas!!!

It's Cylas!!!
Taladu @ 2 weeks old

Names In The Sand